Hello and welcome to the loneliness section! It's perfectly normal to feel lonely, even when you have loved ones! We all go through phases and changes in life, so it's normal to grow out of or lose friends. Even when you don't want to.

[crisistextline.org]
A textline, also contains advice, quotes and a quiz to measure your loneliness

[health.mil]
Advice for veterans and military famlies

[socialworklicensemap.com]
List of resources and programs to combat loneliness within elderly

[connect2affect.org]
More resources for elderly, includes a search to find connection/events in your area

[endsocialisolation.org]
textlines, resources,support groups, and programs for all ages and lgbt people



To combat loneliness on your own, it's important to be around people. Even without interacting with them. Here are some things you could do in your down time:

-Going to a public space like a park or library

- Attending events or book clubs at said library: You could even start a club of your own. And book clubs typically have icebreaker games at the first meeting to get to know everyone. This is a good way to meet people with similar interests and gain friends.

- Use a text/call line: Don't be shy, the people volunteering are either trained professionals or at least choose to be there for others and support them!

- Listening to music about thing similar to your experiences: You could ask online within forums for music regarding whatever you're sad about, or look up keywords on places like YouTube or Spotify.

- Complimenting people: I randomly get bouts of misanthropy and paranoia of other people, it's a bit hard to feel connected and good about others when you're bedrotting and watching true crime content yeah? So it's good to be that light if you can't find it in others, you can even strike up conversations with people this way. "Oh I like your band shirt, what genre are they?" "Woah! Your pins reminds me of a show I watch! Let's talk about it!"

-Going to cafes/resturants: The waiters have to interact with you to serve you. I've even heard of resturants that seat you with stuffed animals, they appear to be in Japan though.

-Getting a pet: It's important to ensure you have enough money, time, energy, and knowledge to get a pet. Or else the pet won't be happy, and you won't be happy. But this is a good way to combat loneliness, how can you feel sad with a kitty cat curled up on your lap purring? ≽(•⩊ •マ≼

- Using less social media: A lot of social media promotes anything that's popular, including ragebait. It can be incredibly harmful to simply be scrolling through your feed, laughing at funny cat videos, and then come across some distressing news, an online arguement, someone purposely saying something damaging or controversial, etc. That's not good for your emotions or regulating them, yeah? It is also designed to be addictive and keep you on it as much as possible. Set time limits or block websites on your phone/computer and find hobbies/hangout with people outside of the internet.

- Seek out media related to your experiences:Things like movies, music, tv shows, characters, even memes can help you feel less isolated. I remember when I was younger, I would create memes regarding the things I was facing, and post them online to support groups/forums and recieve comments of people saying they relate or that I'd get through it.

- Stuffed animals/plushies: If you're too shy to talk to people or unable to have pets, getting stuffed animals is a good way to suppliment that. You could even get ones that are scented, weighted, warmable, or all three. There's even some places that let you put custom messages within them, like build a bear!

If you have anymore recommendations please email me @spaghettithecat4@gmail.com or dm me @ spaghettisresources on insta!

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